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5 communication quotes from ‘the mother of media psychology,’ Dr. Joyce Brothers

PBDJOBR EC017She has been dubbed “the mother of media psychology.”   

Dr. Joyce Brothers, a licensed psychologist who passed away on Monday, has been described by CNN as having “a reassuring and calming demeanor” that boosted her self-titled local talk show to syndication in the 1960s.

Dr. Brothers’ affable personality and willingness to talk about taboo subjects such as marriage, relationships, and families made her a household name for decades. Remember, this was a time when married couples on TV were sleeping in separate beds. The word ‘pregnant’ wasn’t uttered on television, either. 

According to NBC News, “Her television show would soon make her a pop culture fixture. She made nearly 100 appearances on Johnny Carson’s The Tonight Show. Her frequent public appearances propelled her to become one of the most admired women in America, appearing on Gallup’s list of most admired American women.”

Here are five insights on communication and media from Dr. Joyce Brothers:

  1. “There is such a thing as bad publicity.”
  2. Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.”
  3. “If Shakespeare had to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.”
  4. “Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.”
  5. “I invented media psychology. I was the first. The founding mother.” (1989)

Years ago, not everyone jumped on the media psychologist bandwagon.

“Dispensing advice on public airwaves didn’t please all of her colleagues,” reports CNN. “Some members of the American Psychological Association asked early in her media career that her membership be revoked because they didn’t think dispensing advice outside a one-on-one setting was appropriate.” However, the APA’s website says that media psychology became part of the organization’s structure in 1986.

Admittedly, I’m a bit troubled thinking that this wonderful talent paved the way for today’s sensationalist personalities like Dr. Phil and Dr. Drew Pinsky. 

But as we recall Dr. Brothers’ intelligence and accomplishments, we also note that she was fun. In the 1950s, Dr. Brothers was a TV game show contestant, winning more than $134,000 in prize money.  She made several cameo appearances in movies, including a parody in The Naked Gun. On the small screen, she was featured on Happy Days, The Simpsons, and Entourage.

Rest in peace, Dr. Joyce Brothers. You were a gifted media pioneer with talents that stretched across print, radio, television, and movies.

 

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How ‘breaking news’ got broken

snakeoilHow exactly did the process of gathering news get to this point? 

We have allowed news readers to go on-the-air and vomit ambiguous language that holds no one accountable.

This is not the first time we have witnessed the media—with its authoritative voice and sheer power—destroy its own credibility.

The reporting of terrorism this week at the Boston Marathon, and the subsequent manhunt for the two suspects, left many ordinary people miffed about how news is gathered and shared. 

These past few years, I have watched breaking news stories and 24-hour channels that have repeatedly made sloppy assumptions that mainstream media should never have allowed. 

But it’s gotten so bad this week that people with no behind-the-scenes knowledge of how news decisions are made, have been mortified. I’ve worked as a news director and news reporter. I am beyond mortified.  

These five phrases have contributed to our damaged news coverage: 

1. “We believe that it’s likely…” My take: Accuracy trumps vague.  

2. “We are trying to follow-up on unconfirmed reports…” My take: Action trumps words. 

3. “There’s speculation from a variety of unnamed sources…” My take: Fact trumps speculation.

4. “We are just as confused as you are as we try to put the pieces together…” My take: Clarity trumps confusion.

5. “We have no new information.” My take: New information trumps empty words.

Veteran network newsman and strategist David Henderson writes:  

“The media–especially cable TV–is like a drunk on a binge, and cannot control their near-insane rush for dramatic announcements, replete with bold red warnings of apocalyptic disaster on the screen. Everything is an ‘Alert’ or ‘Breaking News.’ Yet, it seldom is. Wolf Blitzer saying over and over that John King has ‘exclusive information’ is not news. It’s promotion, publicity, boasting. As it turned in the Boston terror story, King’s ‘exclusive’ information was wrong. King was a font of misinformation … gossip.”

People around the world have been offering prayers for the victims and people of Boston.

Let us also extend a prayer for the pained news media. 

 

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10 PR and social media cheers and jeers from the Boston Marathon tragedy

boston marathon croppedMoments after the two initial explosions that rocked the finish line at Monday’s Boston Marathon, social media, bloggers, and traditional reporters took to various networks to ‘cover’ the unfolding story. Another opportunity for citizen journalists.  

I have watched the live coverage, video clips, tweets, and news broadcasts and have been struck by the following:  

Cheers to the people who immediately cancelled their automated tweets and postings.

Cheers to the ‘real’ PR pros that didn’t bother to call newsrooms, send releases, or pitch stories that have no obvious connection to the marathon. 

Cheers to people on Twitter who quoted their source or offered a link to a new development. Information without a source flies in the face of journalism. Well, it used to be that way. 

Cheers to people on the scene who used disclaimers when posting graphic visuals.

Cheers to the reporters who were running in the marathon for jumping into “media mode” amidst the chaos and fright.

Jeers to the chat organizers who plan to “carry on” as usual tonight.

Jeers to people posting non-related motivational quotes on Twitter. Really? 

Jeers to those playing up the Sandy Hook victims angle. Yes, there were relatives near the finish line and yes, the victims were remembered at the start of the marathon, but these folks have had enough. Leave them alone. 

Jeers to the reporters who complained on line that their assignments were changed at the last minute and they had to travel to Boston. 

Jeers to people tweeting about the Jodi Arias trial.  

Anything you would like to add?

Prayers and blessings to everyone affected by these senseless acts.

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Entrepreneurs: 4 ways to use press releases for publicity

car 003One of the most confusing parts of a small business owner’s marketing plan is the press release. While virtually all entrepreneurs understand that marketing and publicity are essential to business success, how and when to write a press release is baffling.

In the social media landscape, many wonder if press releases are still relevant. As a former radio news reporter and news director, I say, yes they are relevant. But ONLY when used to announce something that’s newsworthy. 

Therein lies the confusion. How do you know what’s newsworthy? What do reporters and bloggers look for and cover?

Here are four press release strategies for small business owners:

1.      Avoid self-promotion. Remember that in the word “newsworthy” is the word “new.” When writing a press release or a pitch, be sure you have a fresh angle on a story, trend, or issue. Your announcement must be timely, relevant, and compelling to the public. It must fit with the reporter’s niche or demographic. Sales pitches are for the advertising department, not the newsroom. Hire a PR coach or read books on how to write and frame your story. Many of my blog posts cover this topic. Discover how you can help reporters and editors. The key is to build relationships and become a trusted resource. Before you begin writing a press release, ask yourself, “Who cares?” If your announcement doesn’t impact the public, you’re on the wrong path.

 2.      Keep your news antennae up. News is about people. People love great stories. You have great stories right under your nose but you’re busy running your graphic design company, staffing firm, or retail shop. And of course you’re consumed with learning social media. Take your ear buds out and pay attention to what’s happening around you.  What trends can you comment on? Is your company celebrating an anniversary? Have you recently expanded or gotten a small business grant? How have you helped a client to succeed? Do you have an interesting hobby or talent that’s out of the ordinary?

3.      Think multimedia. Reporters expect to see more than words; they want images, action, and video. They want to hear something. Have you considered using a flip cam to record your press release or pitch? These tools allow the reporter to get to know you by hearing you explain your story and watching your body language. Think about how a Pinterest board can visually tell your story. We live in a creative space. Stand out by inviting news decision makers to connect with you on an exciting and deeper level.

4.      Write tip-sheet style releases. To build your credibility, help people solve their problems. Position yourself as the expert in your industry. People have a pain and you have the medicine that will ease their discomfort. The tip-sheet format (like this list) is effective because it’s reader-friendly in our crazy, busy world.  The bullet points allow readers to skim the content and glean nuggets of information. Our cognitive bandwidth is more limited than ever. Brief tips are usually appreciated. 

Once you have a few press releases, think about how you can repurpose them into blog posts, short video clips, and content for e-zines. Minor tweaks to the format can easily create new content and marketing pieces.    

The bottom line: Your presence affects your prosperity. Don’t be the best-kept secret!

PS: If you want lots of tips like the ones above, you’ll want to see this! Hot off the Press: My new Kindle book, The Badass Book of Social Media and Business Communication.  It’s packed with hundreds of pointers and strategies on PR, news interviews, pitches, writing, blogging, and social media.

8 classic quotes from New York Mayor Ed Koch

kochThe beloved former Mayor of New York City, Ed Koch passed away early today.

He may be gone, but he leaves behind a trove of sound bites and quotes for us to enjoy. 

Koch was a three-term mayor in New York (1978-1989), a time defined by near financial ruin, government corruption, and AIDS. He was an author and activist. He even appeared on The People’s Court.

A man who often asked people, ”How’m I doin’?,”  Koch has been described as acid-tongued, feisty, and pretentious. He was an iconic New Yorker. 

I remember Ed Koch’s press conferences and interviews being laced with ‘ah’s’ and ‘ums’. These are the cardinal sins of Toastmasters and professional speakers.

But for Ed Koch, his vocal habits weren’t sinful. They defined him as being real. Mayor Koch spoke his mind. There was nothing tricky about him. Koch’s press conferences showed him without a jacket, sporting a wrinkled shirt, and rolled-up sleeves. Watch out.

Maybe you followed him on Twitter @Mayoredkoch

Here are some classics to shed light on how Mayor Koch communicated and lived:  

1. “I know many writers who first dictate passages, then polish what they have dictated. I speak, then I polish. Occasionally I do windows.”

 2. “You punch me, I punch back. I do not believe it’s good for one’s self-respect to be a punching bag.”

3. “Tone can be as important as text.”

4. His advice to young people: “Enjoy what you’re doing or don’t do it. That doesn’t mean it isn’t difficult or won’t challenge you, but if you are involved in something that’s causing you to say, ‘Why am I doing this?’ then you’re in the wrong business.”

5. The Mayor, who had never married, was asked by reporters about his sexuality. His response: ”My answer to questions on this subject is simply, ‘F— off.’ There have to be some private matters left.”

6. Koch’s spokesman George Arzt remembered Hizzoner’s sense of humor. “I got into the car and said I couldn’t believe how a kid who grew up in Williamsburg was now sitting next to the mayor. Then the mayor said: “Oh shut, up. Everybody comes from somewhere.”

7. In one of his last interviews, Koch told Vanity Fair Magazine: “At age 88, I wake up every morning and say to myself, ‘Well, I’m still in New York. Thank you, God.’”  

8. In 1983, Mayor Koch bought a burial plot at the Trinity Church Cemetery. It was the only cemetery in Manhattan that still had space. Koch, who was Jewish, told the Associated Press: ”I don’t want to leave Manhattan, even when I’m gone. This is my home. The thought of having to go to New Jersey was so distressing to me.” Soon after he purchased the burial plot, Mayor Koch had an engraved marker placed at the site. It has the last words of slain journalist Daniel Pearl: ”"My father is Jewish, my mother is Jewish, I am Jewish.”

 Rest in peace, Mayor Koch. 

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The revolution of people who report the news

miracle-of-the-hudson-plane-crash_625x352Today marks the fourth anniversary of the “Miracle on the Hudson.”

It’s also the day that citizen journalism and Twitter transformed the way news is covered around the world.  

In 2009, the U.S. Airways flight that “Captain Sulley” was piloting hit a flock of birds, disabling the plane’s engines. Captain Sulley and his crew managed to safely land the aircraft on New York’s Hudson River. Images of 155 passengers standing on the wings of the plane awaiting rescue on that frigid January day were splashed across the media and Internet. 

And this was the day a man named Janis Krums (Yanis Krooms) made the news media and ordinary citizens come to realize that the world no longer needed a professional news crew to report breaking news.

On January 15, 2009, every person in the world was given a press pass. 

It’s the technology, silly

Krums was on a ferry when Flight 1549 crashed on the Hudson. When I interviewed him about the famous picture he took moments after the crash, he told me others on the boat were taking pictures with their cell phones, so he took a few, too.

But it was Krums who knew how to use his technology and tweet the picture. His 300 Twitter followers helped the picture to go viral, bringing citizen journalism to a new level. Krums notes that he didn’t send the picture to any media outlets; he merely tweeted it to his followers. 

“At that moment, I saw the value in what it was, but I didn’t see the value of what it could become,” said Krums. ”I don’t think anyone could see that it could be spread around the world the way it was.”

Since that day, Krums has been labeled “the most famous citizen journalist of modern times.” 

The responsibility

During the past four years, we’ve seen the challenges that come with news that breaks real-time on Twitter and social media. We are grappling with the general public that uses their technology to capture breaking news. The problem is that most don’t understand the true responsibilities that come with a press pass.  

Consider these examples:

  • The capture of Osama Bin Laden
  • The Newtown, CT school shootings 
  • The Gabby Giffords shooting in Arizona  
  • Elections 
  • Hurricane Sandy and other natural disasters
  • The deaths of celebrities including Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston

 

Each of these has forced us to rethink the power of the Internet and the (hopefully) well-intentioned citizen journalists. People who are inexperienced in fact-checking and accuracy have brought a new layer to breaking news. 

Misinformation when reporting developing news stories is dangerous. 

As Krums told me, news will be reported, no matter what. ”The way it’s being reported is continuing to evolve. Traditional journalists will always be second on the scene from now on, especially in the developed world. That’s because more people have iPhones, smartphones, and video capability. If you have the ability to spread the message, you have the power.”

Let this serve as a reminder to each of us, including the mainstream media, that fact-checking and accuracy must be the priorities in covering the news. 

Anything less can not and should not be tolerated. 

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The fine line between news and humanity

“I didn’t read the paper today, but I saw the Post.”

That’s been a long-running joke in New York and New Jersey about the quality of The New York Post. I’ve been reading the paper since the early 1970s, before it tanked.

Call it crap, fodder, entertainment, a joke. But people still buy the rag sheet and it gets published every day.   

Another Day at Work

So what’s an editor to do when a freelance photographer comes back to the newsroom after snapping a picture of a man who was pushed onto subway tracks by a stranger? As the victim tries frantically to climb off the tracks, the train is barreling towards him.

Click. Click. Click. 

The photographer, R. Umar Abbasi, has to decide in a split second: Try and help this desperate human being or do my job. 

His choice made the front page of the paper on December 4th. (Photo via). And the decisions of both Abbasi and his editor have been blasted by many.  

Front Page News

How could another human being watch this horrific chain of events unfold and not try and help?

The man on the tracks who was killed, 58-year-old Ki-Suck Han, was someone’s father, husband, and co-worker.

Was his life worth something more than a cover story? Who are we to judge? 

Opinions from trained photojournalists, editors, and media consultants have been mixed. 

Verena Dobnik, a reporter for the Associated Press writes:   

“The moral issue among professional photojournalists in such situations is ‘to document or to assist,’ said Kenny Irby, an expert in  the  ethics of visual journalism at the Poynter Institute, a Florida-based nonprofit journalism school.

He said that’s the choice professional photographers often face in the seconds before a fatality.”

 Dobnik’s story continues:

“Another professional reluctant to reach conclusions was veteran photographer John Long of the National Press Photographers Association, where he is chairman of the ethics committee.

“I cannot judge the man,” he said. “I don’t know how far away he was; I don’t know if he could’ve done anything.”

However, both Long and Irby said that as a photographer, ‘you are morally obliged to help’ — if possible, rather than take a picture.”

The People’s Court

Social media has been buzzing with comments and opinions from the public.

On Facebook, Scott Freeman of Newtown, PA, posted:  ”I hope the editor of the NY Post burns in hell. Publishing a front page picture of a man left to die to sell papers is classless, cruel, and inhumane. What happened to humanity?”

For the record, there’s been no comment from the editors at the Post. 

Did the rag sheet go too far this time?  

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8 tools to finding the content people really want

If you’re puzzled about how to determine the content and issues your target audience wants from you, you’re not alone.

Are you good at spotting trends? Do you have a forward-thinking vision? Do you outpace your competition in identifying hot topics and ideas within your niche? 

Sure you can watch trending websites.  

But consider these eight ways to help you create fresh content that people will be clamoring for.

  1. Pay attention to Google Instant. This is an autocomplete algorithm that is based on popular search queries by other users. Watch the phrases that appear in the drop-down box when you type the first few letters of your query. Here’s an example from Searchengineland.com: 

  

2. Look at webinar topics and conference registration sites. These are two strong sources for timely content as they address challenges and issues that professionals in your field want to learn.

3. Examine transcripts from Twitter chats. These records offer a plethora of information on specific topics. It will be easy to find out the obstacles that are front of mind in your niche market.  

4. Review your Analytics daily. WordPress and Google are among the platforms that can supply plenty of details about how traffic has arrived on your blog or website (search engines and referrals) along with pageviews, unique visitors, and more. Both tools also give you the keywords or phrases that people typed in their searches. Hint: These words and phrases are their challenges. This is your content.

5. Become part of your customer’s network. The website Predictocracy.org explains, “You can discover what they (customers)  want and what they are passionate about in online forums, social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter, and also video hosting sites such as YouTube and MetaCafe. All these online networking and discussion sites can give you great ideas on how to predict and ride the next big trend.” 

6. Subscribe to HARO. Help A Reporter Out is a free repository that connects media outlets and authors with sources and experts. With a simple subscription, HARO queries are e-mailed three times a day, Monday-to-Friday. Reporters, producers, and writers have very specific requests as they are planning and producing stories and interviews. Use HARO to monitor what reporters are working on. 

7. Ask for help. Use Survey Monkey or another free tool and pose one or two specific questions to your database about what they would like you to provide. Going straight to the source leaves no room for guesswork.

8. Examine the comments posted to your blog. Carefully look for clues in the comments that people have posted. Feedback and insights can help determine what kinds of issues or concerns readers have. It’s likely there are lots of hints.

Have you tried any of these tools? Any suggestions to add to the list? 

In the end, the common denominator is relevance.

Really, Katie Couric: Now you want to talk about your eating disorder?

She’s been a mouthpiece for hard and soft news stories for decades. She’s interviewed hundreds if not thousands of doctors, mental health professionals, celebrities and models. She has two daughters and comes from a family of four sisters. 

Yes, Katie Couric endured the tragic loss of her 44-year-old husband to colon cancer. To educate people about the disease and prevention, she had a colonoscopy that was streamed live on the Internet. She’s had mammograms that were broadcast to the world as well.

Talk is cheap

I sit here with mixed feelings as to why Couric decided now would be a good time to reveal that she had suffered from bulimia. Is it because her new talk show needed some excitement and viewers? If so, Couric’s intention is beyond pathetic. 

When someone like Couric—with the power of the microphone and camera—has an opportunity to be genuine and help even one of the million Americans affected by bulimia and other eating disorders—why would she close her mouth? 

Most people with eating disorders are young, pre-teen girls. People die from eating disorders all the time, yet few people acknowledge how serious this diagnosis can be. 

When I think of the number of people struggling with this disease (including in my own family), I wonder in disgust who could have been helped or inspired had Couric only come clean.  

The real star

Couric reveals her bulimia “secret” on-the-air to singer Demi Lovato, a 20-something-year-old who has the guts and courage to bring her own very personal story public.

Lovato has been open about her demons and battle with an eating disorder, depression, and drugs. She’s been willing to record public service announcements and talk with teens about her struggles, recovery, and how the media and society unfairly put pressure on girls about their weight, clothing, and social lives. In keeping quiet, Katie Couric has opted to pour gasoline on the fire. How could she?     

Today’s revelation by Couric is a disgrace. Sure, she’s entitled to her privacy and has no obligation to share everything in her past. But how dare she interview people like Kate Middleton and others and comment during the interviews about their weight and appearance.   

The power to help—or not

Several months ago, I watched Piers Morgan interview Janet Jackson. She spoke at length about her “pudgy childhood”, lack of self-esteem, poor body image and obsession with exercise. She never once used the phrase “eating disorder.” Instead Jackson said she has long had an unhealthy relationship with food.

Janet Jackson managed to dance around the real issue. And now we learn that the cat seems to have had Katie Couric’s tongue for three decades. 

It’s disingenuous at best that Couric is now talking about her illness. 

Celebrities who have the courage to share their personal stories are the ones worth listening to.

Can someone please pull the plug on Katie Couric’s microphone?  

 

11 news and PR memories from 9/11

On September 11, 2001, my PR company had just marked its first anniversary. 

I had been working on client accounts from my home office in central New Jersey, just 45 minutes from the World Trade Center. 

The Towers were amazing; I had worked in Tower No. 2 after graduating from college.  

And then the unthinkable. 

These are 11 news and PR-related events that happened on or after that clear, sunny morning that I reflect on today:  

1.  TV and radio broadcast antennae on top of the towers knocked major NY/NJ stations off the air. People were asking what happened to the damn Emergency Broadcast System warnings. 

2. One of my clients was scheduled to host their annual networking party on the rooftop of the Hyatt Hotel in New Brunswick. Close to 1,000 people were expected that night. The organizer called me at 11 a.m. wondering if we should postpone the party until the following evening. My thought: There’s no way in hell I’ll be on any rooftop tonight. As we began to grasp the enormity of the events, the networking party was rescheduled for October. 

3. Another client, a commuter ferry service that runs between the Jersey Shore and New York City, had several boats in the water when the planes hit. They were among the first on the scene to bring people out of lower Manhattan to NJ. Later that day, the ferries were transporting volunteers and emergency responders from New Jersey to New York.  They also brought medical supplies, water, food, and other items that businesses had donated. 

4. Novice PR reps were trying to call news outlets in the tristate area to pitch stories. Any clues this was not a routine day and the phone lines would be better served with emergency calls?

5. When the WTC towers fell, a WCBS radio news reporter covering the carnage at Ground Zero was running down the street with her tape recorder. She was unsure if she was working a story or trying to save her own life. In the pandemonium, she was thrown under a parked car and briefly lost consciousness. When she came to, she remembers clutching her black, Marantz tape recorder. 

6. For days and weeks after 9/11, the only pitches and stories reporters listened to had to be related to the terrorist attacks. There was no other news. Period.

7. I was doing PR for a local United Way chapter. Months after the attacks, one of the most difficult stories that transpired was that of experienced social workers, therapists, and religious leaders who were so emotionally consumed with counseling and supporting survivors and their families, that they too, needed professional help. But who could they turn to? No one had been trained for this.  

8. When I picked up my kids at their elementary school on 9/11, they were puzzled because they didn’t have any doctor appointments or advance notice that we had to go somewhere. At the time, they didn’t know that I simply needed them home with me. They watched goofy videos for most of the day. When they wanted to switch to the TV, I panicked. No mother wants her children to see this.  

9. When the cell phone lines allowed, my husband Andrew was able to randomly call me. His office in midtown Manhattan had been evacuated, and because he worked in IT and disaster recovery, offsite backups were the priority. After the tech part was complete, Andrew went to donate blood. He was shell-shocked after watching the planes fly into the World Trade Center. When he arrived at a midtown hospital to give blood, a TV reporter told him there were no injured people inside. No need for blood donations. There weren’t any survivors being brought in to the triage. Andrew finally got home from the City at 10 p.m.

10. The night of 9/11, one of my neighbors was standing on his front porch smoking a cigarette. He had worked at the World Trade Center and had gone downstairs for a smoke. He was interviewed by the media who reported how a cigarette saved a man’s life. 

11. A guy I knew from high school and later reconnected with in our new community of East Brunswick, worked for Cantor Fitzgerald. He was killed on 9/11. Two of his three children went to school with my kids. His wife would go on to be one of the four “Jersey Girls” who demanded that government officials in Washington, D.C. investigate how the terrorist attacks may have been prevented. 

On September 11, 2001, so many reporters and news professionals I had worked with and knew were covering chaos.  There was no Twitter or citizen journalism.

Today, we remember the innocent people who were killed on 9/11.  

Their faces and lives are the stories. Never forget.